It’s funny how some things in the word of God take on a whole new meaning when you become a parent.
Take these verses for example:
Rid yourselves, therefore, of all malice, and all guile, insincerity, envy, and all slander. Like newborn infants, long for the pure, spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow into salvation— if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is good.
1 Peter 2:1-3
Until you’ve had a newborn, you won’t appreciate the intensity of the yearning that young babies have for their mother’s milk. It’s constant and it’s insatiable, especially in the first few days of life. Even as they grow and their tummies get a little bigger, a newborn’s quest for milk remains regular and intense. Milk is something they crave with a single-minded focus and you can’t distract them from their pursuit.
God says our relationship with the word, the good news about Christ (1 Peter 1:22-25), should be the same. Let’s ask God to make our desire for the enduring word match that of a newborn baby seeking it’s mother’s milk.
It’s probably a goldfish but sometimes it seems like it’s your toddler. We’ve probably all been there: you’re trying to finish your morning coffee or trying to frantically whip dinner together while your toddler winds around your legs, begging for you to entertain them. Somehow, they are bored of the large variety of toys you provided for them and they need something new.
If you can relate to that, this list is for you. It’s a list of 18 things that you can entertain your toddler with, right in your kitchen. It’s perfect for a busy weeknight or a long, rainy day stuck inside. These activities are things that they can do on their own (with supervision of course.)
1. Let Them Stack “Blocks”
Don’t have any blocks? Don’t worry! Find some unopened pasta boxes and let your child build a skyscraper, and knock it down. Build a skyscraper, and knock it down. You get the idea.
2. Spice It Up A Bit
Pull out your spice rack and let your child remove and rearrange your spices. All the better if your spice rack is one of those spinning ones. Your child will probably also enjoy shaking and banging the spice jars, so be careful if they are made of glass. Also make sure they can’t get the lids off!
3. Teach Them Their ABC’s
Fridge magnets are a classic childhood toy that I think every kitchen should have. Your kid can play solo by taking the magnets on and off or rearranging them to form “words.” You can also tell them the names and sounds of the letters or teach them to spell their name. Having a small container near the fridge to put letters in can be fun too. Last night my daughter filled up my husband’s shoes with letters!
4. Bring Out Their Inner Explorer
Designate a cabinet for exploration and fill it with unbreakable items your kid can’t get hurt with or choke on. Let them poke around and discover new objects. Switch it up occasionally to keep it fresh and interesting.
5. Encourage Them To Wash Dishes
Set up a wash basin with some plastic dishes and utensils, soap and water. Provide them with a scrub brush or wash cloth. You may want to strip your child and surround them with towels, because they will make a mess. Guaranteed.
6. Start A Mariachi Band
Fill some plastic water bottles or pill bottles with rice, beans or lentils. Tape the lids on so they can’t make something else for you to clean up (or eat too many uncooked beans) and let them shake the night away.
7. Train A Future Rock Star
This is a classic. Line up some pots and pans, give your kid a wooden spoon, and let them drum up some fun. Grab yourself a pair of noise cancelling headphones and your kids will be entertained for an hour. (Ok, maybe five minutes. But at least you were able to finish your coffee, right?)
8. Create A Teething Station
Grab your wooden spoons and rubber spatulas and put them in a bowl. Let your child chew to their heart’s content.
9. Make An Obstacle Course
If your child can cruise, set up some chairs that they can maneuver around to explore their environment with. If they’re not at that cruising stage yet, set up a low table where they can stand and play with toys. This used to be my daughter’s favorite activity.
10. Design A Sensory Bin
There is a good reason that there are a million and one ideas on Pinterest for sensory bins: they are a cheap way to entertain your kid for hours. And, it’s easy to keep your kids engaged because you can change them up daily or weekly. Here’s a fun one from Swaddles n’ Bottles.
11. Turn The Kitchen Into A Dance Floor
This activity is super easy. Turn on some tunes that you and your child like and rock out. They can dance and you can chop your veggies to the beet. (Sorry, had to sneak a bad veggie pun in there.)
12. Veg Out
Give your child an array of fruits and veggies to explore. You can even give them a magnifying glass. Depending on the age, though, they may try to eat them skin and all. I gave my daughter a banana once and she started eating it through the skin! Obviously I stopped her, but yuck! Moral of the story? Be vigilant!
13. Whip Up Some Water Shakers
Fill empty water bottles or spice containers with water, food coloring, oil, glitter and whatever else you can think of. Make sure the caps are secure and watch your child enjoy sloshing the colorful, sparkling water. Here’s some ideas from Preschool Inspirations.
14. Get A Little Slimy
If you don’t mind a little (ok, a lot of) mess, whip up a batch of slime! You don’t need any fancy ingredients to make a safe, non-toxic slime or playdough. Once again, Pinterest is your friend here.
15. Sweep Like Cinderella
Kids love to help with chores. And, it’s good for them. Dress your toddler in their favorite princess costume and put them to work with a dustpan and broom. They might not do a great job, but they will have fun. Plus, it will pay off later when they can sweep the floor on their own while you kick your feet up for a well deserved rest.
16. Swab The Deck
Similar to number fifteen, but possibly more fun because it involves water. (Kids love water.) Give your kid a washcloth and a spray bottle and let them wash the floor. (Kids love spray bottles, too.) You might need to teach them that they can only spray the floor, not the family cat.
17. Work On Fine Motor Skills
Provide your child with some cheerios, pasta, or other food item with holes. Then give them a pipe cleaner, a shoe lace, or a string with some tape on the end and teach them to thread the “beads” on the string. Depending on what you give them as “beads,” they may just end up snacking. But that’s okay too, because the goal was to entertain them, right?
18. Wear A Baby Backpack
If all else fails, wear your baby. My mother-in-law used to put my husband in a backpack (when he was smaller of course) and wear him around while cooking. He loved hanging out with mom and watching her do things. These days there are many great baby carriers and wraps that you could use to serve the same purpose. We use an Ergo baby carrier or a BabyWombWorld wrap. Just be smart if you’re working in the kitchen please!
How do you entertain your toddler when you need to get things done?What are your favorite go-to activities?
A little over a year ago, my husband and I became parents. Before our daughter was born, neither of us had any experience with infants. It was a scary moment when the hospital staff helped us pack up our daughter and waved goodbye. Suddenly we were responsible for a tiny human who couldn’t talk, couldn’t hold up her own head, and depended on us for everything. No pressure, right?
When we got her home, it was a baptism by fire. Or as least it felt like that, because it was 100 degrees F and she was screaming. Removed from her perfectly climate-controlled hospital environment and thrown into the heat of summer, her little system was shocked and she was very unhappy. She let us know how she was feeling with a lot of angry crying and we did our best to soothe her. It was a process of trial and error, but eventually we figured out some good ways to calm her and help her adjust to her new world. (One of them was installing an air conditioner 😉 )
That was the start of our parenting adventure. I call it an adventure because it’s a journey full of twists and turns. Every day brings new challenges to overcome and new milestones to celebrate, which means that you, like your child, are always growing, changing, and learning new things.
I’ve learned so much in my first year as a parent, simply through the experience of caring for a tiny human. I’ve also learned a lot through research. For that reason, I wanted to share the top seven things that we learned about and tried this year. My hope is to inspire and encourage you and to share with you a few ways we were able to save some time, money, and effort in our first year of parenting.
Note: I’m a stay-at-home mom with a single child. (For now). Every child and every family are different, so the things that worked for us might not work for you and that’s okay. 🙂
1. The 5 S’s
Before we had our daughter, a parent at the daycare that I worked at lent my husband and I a video called The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp. It was a true lifesaver. Based on his studies, Dr. Karp discovered that babies are calmer and happier when their parents create a “virtual fourth trimester” which mimics womb-like sensations. He developed a strategy which utilizes some techniques which he calls the 5 S’s to help relax babies and put them to sleep. The S’s he identifies are Swaddle, Side-Stomach Position, Shush, Swing, and Suck. These 5 S’s are easy to put into practice and they work. We loved them because they gave us the tools that we needed to soothe our daughter as she adjusted to her new environment. If you’re interested in learning more, check out this article here.
I love, love, love breastfeeding. Not only is it super nutritious for your little one, but it is so convenient! There are no formulas to mix in the middle of the night, no bottles to wash, and nothing extra to carry when you go to the store. But, it didn’t come easily to me or my daughter. I actually had a terrible start to breastfeeding because within the first week, my nipples were bruised and cracked because of a few bad latches. At some points I wanted to scream because it hurt so bad. It took a couple months for her latch to improve and my skin to heal. In the end it was worth it though and I’m glad that I pushed through the pain, but I can totally understand why some moms choose not to nurse. But, if you have the opportunity, I encourage you to try breastfeeding and stick out the hard parts because it pays off in reaping enormous health benefits for your baby, as well as saving you time and money.
3. Sleep Training
Oh, sleep training! I could sing its praises all day long. Sleep training is one of those topics that is very controversial, but the truth is that it’s not going to harm your baby and it will make you a much better parent because you will actually be able to feel human again. Sleep deprivation is not a good thing. Is sleep training hard? Yes. Is it worth it? Totally. I can’t emphasize that enough. We decided to sleep train our daughter around 4 months because I could no longer function on the amount of sleep I was getting. There were a couple of weeks where we went to church and I started crying when I walked in the door because I was so tired. A family doctor at our church recommended sleep training. We took her advice, and within a week our daughter was sleeping through the night. She was waking up more refreshed and happy, and so were we. Win!
4. Baby Sign Language
I first learned about baby sign language when I worked at the daycare. Even though I worked with the older toddlers, occasionally they would still sign “more” or “please” when they wanted something. When our daughter was born, we decided to try teaching her baby sign language. We started around six months. At the suggestion of Babywise, the first word we taught her was “please.” Honestly I think it was a mistake! Why? Because she signed please for everything, and sometimes it was difficult to figure out what she wanted! I think next time we will start with other words so that our little one will be able to communicate her needs better. Even so, I think teaching our daughter some sign language has led to less crying overall because she knows to express her needs in ways other than through tears. One thing to note: you might have to make up some of your own signs, because some of the standard signs are too difficult for younger babies to manage with their developing fine and gross motor skills. If you’re interested in baby sign, check out this page here.
5. Baby-Led Weaning
Does your baby beg you for sauerkraut, turnips or grapefruit? Ours does! And I give all the credit to baby-led weaning. Baby-led weaning is when you allow your child to self-feed using appropriate finger foods, rather than the traditional parent-feeding-child-puree approach. We started baby-led weaning around four or five months with our daughter and it worked out great for us. We bypassed store-bought purees and rice cereals and instead fed our daughter baby-sized bites of whatever we were eating. Not only did it save us time and money, but it exposed our daughter to new textures, tastes and colors. Not surprisingly, she is willing to eat almost anything including cauliflower, liver and balsamic vinegar. An additional benefit is that we know she is getting healthy vegetables, fats and proteins rather than a lot of carby, sugary mush from a jar. Learn more about baby-led weaning here.
6. Cloth Diapers
Even before our daughter was born, I knew I wanted to use cloth diapers. They are cheaper, better for the environment, and better for your baby’s bum because they don’t contain harmful chemicals. But, they do come with a learning curve and they add a few extra laundry days to your week. When we first brought our daughter home from the hospital, we used disposables for convenience sake. I didn’t need any extra trips into the basement while I was healing and I certainly didn’t need to figure out how to care for cloth diapers while I was caring for a tiny human. But after I started feeling better, (which took forever by the way, 10 weeks!), I made the switch to cloth diapers and I’m never turning back. We’ve run into various challenges along the way and had to do some troubleshooting with our wash routine, but it feels great to be saving money, reducing waste, and investing in our daughter’s health.
7. Elimination Communication (Sort of)
One thing that has made this cloth-diapering mama’s life so much better is elimination communication. If you’ve never heard the term before, it refers to the practice of naturally potty-training your children by learning their elimination cues and teaching that the toilet is the proper place for them to “do their duty,” so to speak. The learning curve for EC can be messy because it involves some scheduled diaper free time and observation. We tried this for a bit, but honestly I didn’t need any more towels to clean and it seemed like our daughter didn’t give a whole lot of cues. So we did a modified sort of EC instead, where we would place our daughter on the toilet after naps, after meals, and before diaper changes. Our daughter learned that the toilet was the best place for her BMs, and in the seven months or so since we started, we’ve only had to change a dozen or so poopy diapers. A bonus? Our daughter isn’t afraid of the toilet and she gets less diaper rashes. Totally worth the extra effort. (And mess.)
So there you have it! Those are the top seven things that saved us time and money, and made our first year with an infant so much easier. I hope they will be just as helpful for you as they were for us.
What are the tips and techniques that worked best for you in your first year of parenting?
A little over a year ago, I became mom to a wonderful little girl. Being a mom is something I looked forward to for a long time. But in all of my anticipation, I don’t think I ever calculated all of the little sacrifices that a mom makes, or how hard they would be.
Looking back over this last year, I think the hardest thing for me to consistently give up is my time, especially my time in the morning. I love being awake before the rest of the family and spending the first part of my morning alone, in quiet, reading the word of God. It focuses me and centers me for the day. Without that time, I feel like a ship without an anchor, being tossed around in a sea of chores.
During the week, though, it’s hard for me to find that time in the morning. My husband gets up early to go to work and we eat breakfast together. Waking up before him isn’t an option, because I can’t function when I don’t get enough sleep.
That is why I look forward to the weekends. My husband likes to sleep in on the weekends, so it is my chance to have some time to myself in the morning.
But it doesn’t happen as often as I would like.
I can remember many times when it has almost happened. I’ll wake up early before everyone else and sneak into the kitchen, where I’ll make my cup of coffee and sit down at the table. I’ll open my Bible and almost without fail, I’ll here a cry from the other room, which means my little nugget is awake and I’m on duty again.
Sometimes I have a hard time handling the interruption gracefully, and I get frustrated and angry. And then I’ll get angry that I’m angry again about something I shouldn’t be angry about!
In those moments, I want to be more like Jesus, who welcomed interruptions because he saw them for what they really were: people in need.
After his cousin was beheaded Jesus needed some time to process what had happened, so he “withdrew… by boat to a remote place to be alone” (Mt. 14:13a). But, he never got that time to himself because the crowds followed him on foot.
I don’t know what I would have done in that situation. I probably would have told the people, “Look, I’ve had a hard day, leave me alone.” But that’s not what Jesus did. His response is so full of grace and it amazes me every time I read it: “As he stepped ashore, he saw a huge crowd, felt compassion for them, and healed their sick” (Mt 14:13b-14).
Rather than get upset that his quiet time was interrupted, Jesus lays aside his own plans and needs for those of the people. He looks beyond himself and has compassion on the crowd.
I want to be more like that next time I hear that cry from the other room. And, in time, by God’s grace, I will be.
How do you handle interruptions to the important parts of your day? How do you make time in the midst of a busy schedule for the things which matter most?
A couple days ago when I opened up my browser, I spied an article from Inc.com titled, Want to Raise Successful Kids? Science Says Do These 5 Things Every Day by Bill Murphy Jr. As a new parent, that naturally caught my attention and so I read it. I really loved the five science-backed suggestions it gave on how to raise a successful child, and it caused my husband and I to reflect on our own childhoods and the things that our parents did, or didn’t do, with us. It also encouraged us to make some changes in our own parenting plans.
The first habit the author recommends is to set high expectations for your kids. He cites a British study whose conclusion was basically that your kids find it annoying when you nag them and set the bar high for them, but they do listen and your efforts pay off. The study found that British teens whose parents set high standards for them were more likely to attend college and less likely to become a teen mom, be unemployed for long periods of time, or to have a low-wage, future-less job.
I think my parents did a good job at setting the bar high for me. They always told me to “do well in school so you can go to college some day.” They also encouraged me to stay away from drugs and alcohol through their personal stories about the negative impact that it had in the lives of their friends and acquaintances.
The second habit Murphy suggests is to praise your kids the right way. This is actually something that I heard about recently on a podcast. Research has shown that if you praise your children based on their effort, rather than for their abilities, they are more likely to be successful. Why? Because you are either teaching them resiliency by showing them that they can work to overcome challenges, or you are teaching them that there is nothing that they can do to grow or change because they are the way they are.
I don’t remember how my parents praised me, but somehow I developed a good work ethic and the desire to succeed and overcome challenges. I think it was because my parents put me in gymnastics at a young age, which is a sport where individual effort is important and hard work pays off. I remember that I always had great coaches that had high expectations for us and praised us for our efforts.
This is one area where I know we will have to put some conscious effort into making some changes in our parenting. Having high standards for our child has never been a problem for us, but we are definitely guilty of using ability-based praised, rather than effort-based praise. I’m glad we found out now though, rather than down the road, because the consequences of your style of praise take root in early toddlerhood.
My parents did a great job on the third habit, which is to get your kids outside as much as possible. It’s been shown that kids who spend more time running around outside demonstrate better outcomes math and reading skills. While I have no way of knowing if getting outside made me smarter, I’d say that my parents helped me develop good habits of physical fitness by taking us on a nature walks and bike rides. I can’t say I always enjoyed it a kid, but now as an adult I love physical activity and spending time outside.
The fourth habit of raising successful kids is to read to your kids and to engage them in the story. Let them turn the pages and ask them open ended questions about the plot.
While I don’t remember my parents reading to us in the way this article describes, I can personally attest to the impact that reading can have on a child, because from an early age I developed a love for books. I remember my parents taking us to the library and letting us pick out a huge stack of books. They would read to us at dinner and before bed. We moved from picture books, to chapter books, to classics like Treasure Island and 20,000 Leagues Under the Sea. I was constantly reading as a child and I think that helped me to become a better writer and communicator, as I developed a broader vocabulary and a better understanding of how to logically communicate ideas which is useful for public speaking and teaching.
This is another area where we will be making some adjustments in our current routine. We love reading with our little one before her naps and sometimes during the day, but now we know the importance of being intentional about actively engaging her and asking questions. While the article didn’t explain why reading in this way contributes to a child’s success, I would imagine it develops their imagination and critical thinking skills.
The final habit is one that both my husband and I wish our parents had forced upon us, and one that we are already planning on incorporating into our little one’s life: doing chores. Because my parents did everything for us, I had no idea how to do basic things like cook a meal, wash clothes, or clean a bathroom when I went off to college. I had to figure it all out on my own later. That’s one reason chores are important, but there’s another. Chores not only teach kids valuable life skills, like how to cook and do laundry, but it also cultivates their work ethic. Having a good work ethic is essential for success in every area of life.
So there you have it. The five things that, according to science, are essential for raising “successful” children. Now what do you think? Do you do any of these things with your kids? What might you start to do differently?